The Power of Patience
There’s one thing I’m REALLLLLY don’t like: Being patient. Surprise, surprise. The aries in me wants things RIGHT NOW.
I’ve always been like this. When I was a kid, I fired (Yes, FIRED) my piano teacher for making me clap the beats of the music instead of playing. I was in kindergarten and wanted to play the piano! Little did I understand that in order to play, I had to learn how to read music, clap and hear the beats, etc. I got annoyed. So, I fired my teacher and taught myself how to play the piano. Since then, I’ve played several other instruments and have read hundreds of sheets of music. However, now I only can play the basics on the piano. If I just took those small, daily steps to learn the piano, I could have accomplished so much more.
Over the years, I’ve matured and learned the power of patience, but it still requires active work on my end. Lately, I have been pleasantly reminded on the Power of Patience. I’ve been meeting with some inspirational people who all started “at the bottom”, worked their way up, took the time to develop their craft, build a following, and then flourish 5, 10, 15, and even 20 years after they began. It’s not like these leaders were never great or anything. They just didn’t get that BOOM until after their honed in on their personal art. We always love to hear the stories of overnight successes and quick-fix weight loss stories. But those are the exceptions. They aren’t “real”. The good stuff requires patience, grit, a strong vision, and daily hustling. You know, the stuff we don’t always see – even with social media taking over our world.
I am proud to say that I’ve become more patient with myself and others. As I’ve taken on some best practices for being patience, I have become more powerful. I gain more respect from others, focus on my craft, and enjoy life a lot more!
If you’re ready to #MAKETHINGSHAPPEN, check out my Top 3 Ways to Be More Patient:
Being patience is HARD. Especially when the going gets tough. You’ll need to develop a strong vision for whatever you’re working towards. Not just want you want to do, but how you’ll feel, what your world will look like, etc. For me, I actively take the time to form my vision. This way, as my life takes all of its twists and turns, I can remind myself of what I’m working so hard for.
2. Challenge yourself, but know your limits.
I’m all about taking on challenges. I love the thrill of it all. However, when we do too much at once, we tend to lose our focus. One of my college mentors told me, “Michele you need to do 13 things to keep sane. It’s when you take on 14 that things get a little crazy.”. I will never forget that! It’s so true! I love to do a million things and that rush keeps my energy high. However, when there’s too much happening at once, I can’t do everything to my very best AND have fun. I think that holds true for most of us, right?
When I was a District Manager for NYSC, my boss became one of my best mentors and friends (hope you’re reading J!). She knew I loved to teach and do it all. She suggested that when I’m not working as a manager, that I just teach two formats instead of 30. This will help me to focus, teach very well, and be a great manager.
Most recently, for those of you who don’t know, I started a new job in April.. I haven’t worked in a corporate setting in a while, so I had to give myself time to adjust my whole life and manage my time. I was given several things in the beginning of my job to take on and head without much instruction (the best way to learn!). Anyway, my boss checked in on me after a couple of weeks to see if I needed more to do. Obviously I could handle more! Bring it on! MORE MORE MORE. But, there were a lot of “firsts” in my new role coming up for me. I knew that I had to take my time to get through each one and learn how to best set up for success. I told my boss that I can definitely handle more, but I want to get each action item done well so I know what to expect for the future. He said, multiple times, that he was impressed with my response. It was in that moment that I realized being patient is POWERFUL.
My manager at NYSC always reminded me to breathe before I responded to e-mails and when I had to do big administrative tasks (not my skill/favorite). I’m not perfect at that now, but I am much more mindful when I respond to notes – especially with important people on them. When the going gets tough, we have to just breathe. We need to let go of what we can’t control and take in energy to tackle what we can.
What you’re working for may not happen today, tomorrow, or in a month from now. But if you can focus on what your goal is, take on smart challenges, and take big, deep breaths, we will allow ourselves to be more patient every day and rise to the top!
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Love & Leadership,